Weight loss: Mom problems (rant) |
- Mom problems (rant)
- I know it's natural but weight fluctuations day-to-day drive me crazy
- Exactly one year in and 155lb lost but starting to realize I’ve missed the fitness aspect of weight loss. How to recover?
- No more excuses: speaking it into existence
- Feeling hopeless at weight gain
- Today, it hit me!
- It’s been 6 years and I still can’t figure it out
- Having my very first cheat day after nearly 4 months because my period started and I AM RAVENOUS
- I need advice on maintenance in a college environment
- Frustrated
- Made A Decision to Really Commit
| Posted: 23 Jun 2021 03:28 AM PDT Sorry to vent but I'm incandescent with rage and I need to let it out. So my mom called me the other day to hear about these sewing classes I'm taking (I want to learn how to make clothes for my toddler) and she said she could have some fabric at home for me to experiment with. For instance, 'An old dress of yours I found in your room! I've never seen you wear it, you could make something with it'. I have a box of old clothes at her place (that she said I could leave there, 'No problem!') but I had no idea what dress she was talking about. 'It's still got a label on, it's so incredibly small! I tried it on, it doesn't even fit *me*! I think you must have bought it' a slight pause as she did something in the kitchen, and I assumed she would say "when you were in uni", because I was at a normal BMI back then, but instead she said 'online'. The assumption being, I made a mistake and bought something 'so incredibly small' and obviously that's the only explanation because apparently in her mind I've been obese all my life. Now what I hate about this (on top of her going through my stuff and trying on my clothes, tbh) is that I used to be fit in uni but then when I started grad school one of my friends died and that triggered an anxiety disorder + the crap eating habits my mom taught me developed into a fully fledged eating disorder I finally got therapy for. It was a horrifying period in my life. My mom knows all this, and the fact I put on 60 lbs almost overnight obviously was visible after I came back from grad school, but after one week of cuddly words and empathy she started with the passive aggressive tips on how to lose weight that never really stopped. Today I got the famous dress in the mail, turns out it's something I bought for a wedding abroad and then forgot at home so I have the exact date when I got it and unsurprisingly it was just before my friend died. It's a UK size 12 (US 10), which is what I wore until my life spiraled out of control (at my biggest, I was spilling out of a UK 18 / US 16, now I'm UK 16 / US 14). So it's not incredibly small and also something that actually fit me back in 2009. I don't know. It's a small thing, maybe, but it annoys me so much. It's like my mom is not only constantly hinting at how fat I am and how I'll never lose weight, but also gaslighting me into believing I was never thin in the first place. It's infuriating. Anyway all this to say I lost 30 lbs so far, and I am going lose the last 30 out of sheer spite before the end of this year. My new goal is to show up for Christmas dinner in that fucking summer dress even if I die of hypothermia and act like it fit me all along. Literally what the fuck. Thanks for listening and good luck with your own journey! [link] [comments] |
| I know it's natural but weight fluctuations day-to-day drive me crazy Posted: 23 Jun 2021 04:44 AM PDT I know I shouldn't weigh myself every day because it's a recipe for frustration, but I like having the data and seeing the gradual downward slope. I'm also afraid that if I weigh myself once per week, I will either (1) weigh myself on only days where I'm retaining a lot of water (or on my period or ovulating) and it'll be discouraging; or (2) let myself go and not realize it. But anyway. It drives me CRAZY when the scale fluctuates so much over just a day. Two days ago I was at my lowest weight since I had my kids - 132. I felt AMAZING. I was so confident all day. Then yesterday morning when I stepped on the scale - 134. Same this morning, 134. It was like someone just let all the air out of me. I know there's a million reasons for it that aren't related to actual weight gain because of overeating. But it makes me feel like the 132 was a mistake, or the scale was broken, or something. Feels bad man. [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 23 Jun 2021 04:56 AM PDT So today marks exactly one year since I started my weight loss journey and up until today I've only focused on the numbers on the scale. I started at 366.2 and this morning I was 210.2 so 156lbs lost. However, when I went to take my progress photo it hit me when I saw how fat my belly and love handles are and how thin and frail my neck looks. I am also considerably weaker than I was. I have completely missed the fitness aspect of weight loss. My whole loss has consisted of calorie restriction, my plan was to get the weight off because exercise was so hard at my weight but I'm realizing it's not much easier now. Yes, many aspects are easier like chasing my daughter around the playground or getting up off the ground but I still can't do push-ups or really run any worthwhile distance. Any suggestions on how to change course and what kind of exercise regiment I should start with? My goal isn't to be a body builder but I would like to a least lean out some of the fat around my stomach area. Thanks for the advice [link] [comments] |
| No more excuses: speaking it into existence Posted: 23 Jun 2021 03:51 AM PDT F21 | SW: 198 CW: 182 I've been plateauing since maybe Christmas last year because I simply cannot manage to get myself together. I've been finishing uni, dealing with work pressure, trying to sort mental health support . . And I'm done with the excuses. I wanted, so badly, to have lost the weight by my 21st birthday. But it came and went this last weekend, with my final celebrations last night, and so now I'm deciding that this is it. There's nothing coming up in the next couple of months — no reasons to drink, to take a week off, anything like that, and most of my friends have left the city — so I'm finally going to get on it. This is me speaking it into existence. I'm going to come back to this post a month from now, and I'm going to have finally gotten past this plateau and made it to 175. No 'if not', no 'if I don't' — it's happening. See you then. Any tips, motivators, advice — I'm all ears. [link] [comments] |
| Feeling hopeless at weight gain Posted: 23 Jun 2021 06:37 AM PDT 5'3 F28 SW:137? GW:120 CW: 148. I'm currently recovering from two surgeries, the first dating back to last month. Well, I had the 'brilliant' idea to weigh myself today. Two weeks ago, I was at the supposed 137 lbs when the nurse weighed me right before foot surgery. Now, I ballooned over 10 lbs. I can barely walk without pain, and my goal seems so far out of reach, even unattainable. My diet hasn't been the best lately, mostly comfort food, curteousy of my grandmas. But I'm slowly gaining enough strength to hobble around a bit, and will incorporate more servings of fruit and vegetables in my diet. I'm so disappointed in myself, and my 'goal' jeans are folded neatly in my closet. Stress-induced headaches are almost daily at this point, and I don't know what else I can do. [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 23 Jun 2021 06:35 AM PDT I am down 45lbs! CW 188. GW 170? In October 2019 I hit that number that scared me, that weight that made me think "this is getting out of hand". (250lbs) And so I did keto for 3 months, dropped 15lbs, and finally got pregnant after trying for over a year. Obviously my weight loss efforts paused. August 2020, 235lbs, I accepted that I was just going to be fat forever. I bought a bunch of new clothes to try and flatter my body. And I wasn't happy. Bought a treadmill, and started logging my food. Making healthier choices. And here I am today, 188 lbs, 45lbs down. It's been slow, and the scale moved down slowly. But I have so many NSV! I dance in the kitchen again, I can jog, I can go up and down stairs without getting winded, I feel happy. My kids are telling me i'm happier, and that i'm doing more fun things with them. And in my heart and in my head, I feel better. Guys, Action comes before Motivation. Celebrate the small victories. Find personal reasons to keep going. Do it because you want to. If I can do it, so can you! [link] [comments] |
| It’s been 6 years and I still can’t figure it out Posted: 23 Jun 2021 03:50 AM PDT SW: 230lbs CW: 230lbs GW: 165lbs So.. like many people, i've been struggling with my weight since I was 15 years old, I tried many diets and ways to lose weight and I actually succeeded a lot, But here's the problem.. I lost almost 90lbs in 2018, a year later i gained 60lbs, then in 2019 I tried another diet and lost 40lbs, then gained 40+ lbs just a year later.. and it's so frustrating… Annnnd here I am in 2021 trying again, i've been working out with dumbbells & jump rope for a month now, i eat a healthy, low calories meal for lunch, and i just order junk food for dinner cause i'm not taking this seriously and i'm afraid im gonna fail again.. I'm really trying to eat healthy all day now but it's hard, especially cause I'm usually very stressed when i come back from work, so i just forget about all my goals and plans and eat whatever i want, which is bad. Any tips? [link] [comments] |
| Having my very first cheat day after nearly 4 months because my period started and I AM RAVENOUS Posted: 23 Jun 2021 06:09 AM PDT I had my contraceptive implant removed recently, and I woke up this morning feeling super bloated and crampy and without any hormonal control over my period for the first time in 17 years. I CAN NOT STOP EATING, and I just want sweets and carbs and ice cream and chocolate mousse. My stomach feels like a bottomless pit and my body feels like a warzone, so I just decided to let myself have this one day of eating whatever the hell I want. It will be the first day that I will have eaten above 1400 cals since February this year, and after all of that I think I deserve it a little. I needs the comfort food. I knew that menstrual cycles messed with appetites and water retention, but I had no idea how much! I know I'll have to bring it into control again tomorrow and be aware for next time, but today just hit me like a truck! Any other womb-havers here who have experienced this? I definitely can't be allowed to do this again every month! Edit: spelling [link] [comments] |
| I need advice on maintenance in a college environment Posted: 23 Jun 2021 06:31 AM PDT I'm a college student, but lived in my own apartment for two years, so I had a lot of control of my own food. I ate unhealthy (as you can see on my profile haha), but I prioritized eating healthy and portioning my food. I lost the 15 pounds I gained during my depression stage in quarantine. For the summer, I'm back in a college environment with roommates and while we cook our own food, it's a lot harder. A lot of activities are centered around food, and it's always been harder for me to meet and talk to people, so I go and try to build friendships. The food is typically unhealthy and I find myself overeating everyday. There are usually snacks all over our dorm too, whereas when I make snacks at home, I bake them myself and only try to make one thing at a time. I also did intermittent fasting, but the times people eat with their friends vary a lot too. But overall, unhealthy food is more accessible and easier to overeat. I know this is my responsibility and I need to be better, but I'm looking for advice on how to not regain the weight I lost. [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 23 Jun 2021 06:18 AM PDT After many months of inconsistent tracking and overeating during the pandemic, I got serious about calorie counting again in May. I deleted all my app data and started from scratch with my new starting weight (highest ever) and goal, which gave me a renewed sense of purpose. The first few weeks went great! I was coming in at or under budget every day, and I was seeing the results on the scale. My goal is 1 pound/week, so not an extreme change, but I was satisfied to see that the math was working out how it should. At the end of May, I went to the doctor and was prescribed a course of steroids for nasal polyps. I was worried because I know a lot of people lose weight on steroids, but for the first week or two, they actually seemed to supercharge my weight loss! I had lots of energy and even though I was hungry all the time, I was mostly staying on track. A couple weeks into it, I found that it was getting harder to stick to my plan, and when I started titrating down the dosage of steroids, I didn't have that extra boost to my metabolism, and my weight loss stalled. Still, this made mathematical sense to me - I was eating at maintenance level, so I should be maintaining. What doesn't make sense is that since then I have started to see my weight creep back up. I am back on track with staying on my calorie budget, but every day that I weigh in is the same or higher than the previous day. I completely acknowledge that I was above budget for a couple weeks when I was on steroids, but I never ate more than my deficit, so like I said, I should have been maintaining at worst. I know it's possible that I'm making errors in my tracking, but it seems really unlikely that I would be so far off as to have gained back almost 5 pounds in 2 weeks, especially because I assume I would have been making the same kinds of errors a month ago when I was steadily losing. I have been more active since I renewed my commitment to my health, but nothing that should be adding a tangible amount of muscle mass - we're talking longer walks with my dog and a weekly yoga class. I am under a lot of stress at work - my counterpart quit at the end of April and I absorbed his direct reports and projects, and I've had to manage a lot of operational and personnel drama in the past couple weeks - and at home - I recently bought my first house and have been dealing with making all the preparations and moving and all of that jazz. I also have not been sleeping well - being up later and waking up earlier, and typically waking up at least once per night for at least an hour. However, again, those factors were also present when I was having success. I'm not sure what my goal is with writing this post. Maybe y'all can help me troubleshoot, or just commiserate? Mostly I'm just frustrated and needed to vent. Weight progression for the last month: SW 178 CW 176 GW 140, lowest weight during this time period 171.2 [link] [comments] |
| Made A Decision to Really Commit Posted: 23 Jun 2021 07:21 AM PDT I am totally done with hiding my body and being insecure all the time when I go outside. I have about 20 days until I go on my summer vacation trip, and I am 100% going to commit to a diet and a regular exercise routine. I am making a small journal where I will track my calories and will also be starting intermittent fasting. I am also going to go to the gym every day and do some cardio and maybe some Youtube workouts to get a bit more toned. I literally WILL do this and I need to learn discipline. I know that it might be hard at first but I have done it before and I really want to do it again. I want to commit and just see what happens and what changes I can make to my life. I really will do this. Wish me luck. [link] [comments] |
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