Weight loss: Is it normal to feel overwhelmed and uncomfortable in my new skinny body after being overweight my whole life? |
- Is it normal to feel overwhelmed and uncomfortable in my new skinny body after being overweight my whole life?
- I never thought it would get this far
- Importance of having a goal
- I’m working hard but no scale results.
- Why did I even let myself get here. How can I keep going when even making progress feels discouraging
- Feeling a little defeated
- So a long story about constantly restarting
- Why I don't lose weight at all but gain it so fast ?
| Posted: 13 Jun 2021 04:23 AM PDT Just wanted to share this feeling to see if anyone's who has lost massive amount of weight has experienced this. I feel bad when I see the scale go down as I approach my goal weight. I'm currently 136 lbs, used to be 242. I don't know what's going on but I almost feel scared to be skinny and I don't know why I'm not enjoying this body. I should be on cloud nine and enjoying every bit of it instead I feel so bad, anxious it's not gonna last, but at the same tame "weird and guilty" as I approach 130 lbs (goal weight). Why do I feel such a burden? I keep losing weight very fast, it's like my metabolism has sped up while I'm losing the last few pounds and every time I see the number go down I feel concerned and negatively strange. Have you ever experienced? Could you try to explain why it's happening according to you? I would love to find an answer at least to live in a more relaxed way rather than to think that I'm gonna screw up again or that I'm getting sick and I feel bad being skinny. [link] [comments] |
| I never thought it would get this far Posted: 13 Jun 2021 06:40 AM PDT Growing up I was always skinny. I joined the military right out of high school, and was in great shape in my 20s. Hit my 30s and put on a few pounds, heaviest I got was maybe 200lb. I'm 6'1" male, btw. My wife got pregnant and had gestational diabetes. This caused us to improved our diets. Then I took up cycling. By 35 I was 175-180lb and in the best shape of my life. I even completed the Hotter n Hell 100 ride. I was able to get off GERD and blood pressure meds. Fast forward 4 years to 2020. Dealing with stress, anxiety, and depression coming from a multitude of factors. I'm back up to 200lb, but still walking/jogging 4-5 miles a day. Stress, anxiety, work, depression, Then I get really sick for a week, pretty sure it was Covid, but this was before wide spread testing. After that illness lockdown starts. Now we have two children to homeschool, one with special needs. Luckily my wife stays at home, so she becomes their teacher. After year of lock down and homeschooling, things are finally starting to look normal again. Everything that is but me. I'm now 40 years old, 230 lbs, and my body is not happy. I have constant back pain and I feel constantly fatigued. It so bad I start dripping sweat with the littlest bit of activity. Like cleaning the kitchen. Last weekend I almost blacked out from mowing the lawn. I'm back on GERD and blood pressure meds. I went to the doctor and all my blood work is perfect. Went to a cardiologist and my heart is healthy. No plague and everything is working fine. So basically I'm just out of shape. I know I needed to lose weight. I don't want my picture taken. I had to finally breakdown and buy new clothes because I only had 2-3 shirts that still fit. I don't even like shower because I have to see my body in the mirror. But I kept telling myself, tomorrow will be the day I start losing weight. Now this weekend my mom is visiting for the first time since Covid. So, of course we go out to eat and I have a bunch of fatty food for dinner. I got woken up at 3am by horrible reflux. Yet I decided to door dash donuts and sausage rolls for everyone, instead of making eggs and bacon for breakfast. After eating I felt like such crap I had to lay down on the couch. I'm now watching my 68 year old mom run around and playing with my kids and knowing if I did that I would be sweating and out of breath, I decided I've had enough. I got up poured out my coke and made some green tea. And there will be no excuses tomorrow for me not to go on a morning walk. No more excuses. No more telling myself I'll eat better tomorrow. The change is starting now. I know 50 lbs may not seem like a lot to some people, but it's 30 more than I've had to lose in my entire life. I can't wait to feel comfortable in my own body again. tl;dr - got fat, going to fix it [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 13 Jun 2021 05:17 AM PDT Hi everyone, I am a long time lurker and have been on an ongoing path to lose weight. I was skinny growing up, playing sports all the time and whilst my upper part was non muscular I always had big feet. Then I moved to another country and combine crappy food with no movement and you go from 80kg to 120 really fast. Being 21 and 120kg is not ideal, things that were fairly easy before became exhausting and my life was more or less miserable. I lost my then relationship and moved back home, where I slowly started to realize what I've done to myself. Fast forward a bit and I am in another relationship for 3 years now and moved to yet a new country to start a career and build from scratch. I told myself numerous times that I need to lose weight, but I never asked myself why I want to do it. I forced my body to eat stuff I didn't want to eat, thinking that just by sticking to a diet for a while I will lose the weight and then I can go back to eating a family pizza for dinner. Shockingly, that didn't work. I got a nutritionist and a personal trainer and started to see some results, only to erase those results while in holiday back in my country. I still forced myself to do those things just because I wanted to lose weight, but I wasn't sincere with myself as to why I want this. It just seemed odd and still does, but I used to skip training sessions, have more cheat days than diet days, get stresses with work and eat like a madman... Then one day a few months ago I just looked in the mirror and felt the lowest I felt in my entire life. That moment I knew why I wanted to lose weight. Of course that health is important, but for me it wast't that. I wanted to look good, and when I say look good, I mean greek god type of good. Might sound a bit superficial, but that was my goal, I set it then and there and not one second after have I told myself that it is impossible. Few months later, I am on the right path and not only change is showing on my body/face, but I feel as motivated as I felt when I had my mirror self analysis. I didn't tell my girlfriend about it, I didn't tell anyone, I knew it is my fight to fight, but I also knew there is no way I am not winning. I was aware few things had to be changed, so I started with food. Why would I eat something that stays between me and my goal? Why would I ever think that eating junk food 5 times a week is a good idea? So I started shifting my perspective. For some months now I eat a varied diet, high in protein and low on carbs. But I don't think about my eating habits as of a diet, it is how I eat and it is how I will always it. I sought recipes, informed myself about macros, about benefits of different food groups, spoke with my nutritionist and formed a knit with her so that we monitor and fine tune where needed. I also stepped my gym game up. If before I barely went, now I am there 5-6 days a week and to be honest I feel lazy when I don't go. I train 4x/week with a personal trainer and 1-2 days solo. I am also staying 30 minutes after each hour with my trainer, because I want and need to workout more. The results? Last week I bench pressed 80kg 6 reps, i pushed 300kg in inclined foot press, 8 reps, I pretty much doubled or tripled my gym records in a span of 2-3 months. Everything I do at the gym, I try to do until muscle failure or reversed (highest weight I can, max reps I can, then take some weight off, max reps etc). I want to shock my body everyday I am at the gym because now I am in control and I know what I need to do to make it work. I wake up early now, I stopped smoking, I drink more water, I am strictly following my nutritionist's supplements and dosages. I am doing it. If I have a bad day, I cool it with a workout, if my job is slow (self employed ), I workout to release my stress. In a span of a few months I went from seeing close to no results to developing a good base of muscle for my body and to losing weight on a steady basis. I still have to drop my body fat about 8-10% (at 20 right now) but that is not a problem, I know how. I don't know why I made this post, it might seem a bit arrogant, but if there is one person out there that can read it and get some help from it, I am happy. Some pics bellow: before the change and now, whilst working for it. [link] [comments] |
| I’m working hard but no scale results. Posted: 13 Jun 2021 06:28 AM PDT So, I first started working out again 3 months ago. I decided to do CrossFit because cardio can be very boring to me. I've gone from bench pressing 15lbs to being able to bench press 50lbs. I'm working out 3x/week for 60minutes each time. So, I know for a fact my body is changing. It's just really hard to eat right when I don't see/notice the body changes. I'm very results driven/motivated. I understand muscle weighs more than fat but as the number on the scale won't move or sometimes even goes up — I get discouraged. I'm wondering what other measurements/goals/milestones can I look to, to get inspiration from/feel better about myself for? Then when it comes to eating it pisses me off because I can easily destroy my diet with one meal or snack. The other night I said fuck it and ate an entire big bag of salt&vinegar chips. I need to work on not doing that. Ugh. Idk. I'm just frustrated . Any advice is warmly welcomed. [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 13 Jun 2021 07:01 AM PDT Sorry if this isn't coherent I'm kind of hungover and possibly still drunk from last night haha. I just need to vent about something that's been weighing (Ha!) me down. I gained a lot of weight during the pandemic, ~30 pounds. What's really hard is that I gained the weight right after losing all of it and getting to my lowest weight in years. I took a VERY unhealthy approach to weight loss that destroyed my mental health. Though I couldn't appreciate it more at the time, I was happier with how I looked, how quickly I lost the weight, and how strong I had become. the pressure I put myself under had become too much and I had taken a sharp turn in the other direction, becoming completely sedentary and eating poorly (wooooo depressionnnnn!!!). For the past few months I've been trying to lose the weight in ways that are more sustainable + better for my mental health than before. I figured the reason I rapidly gained so much weight immediately after I had lost it was bc of how much I restricted myself (+ the pandemic of course). This of course means I'm losing much MUCH slower. 3 months into my journey last time around I had already lost all the weight. This time around, I've only lost a fraction of that. Other people have even noticed I've lost weight. But it just makes me feel so bad bc even though I've lost weight I'm still much bigger than I was this time last year. I'm not going to stop bc what would be the point of that. It's just HARD knowing how much physical and mental effort I've put in just to not even be close to my goal. I don't know what's up with me this week, most days I can enjoy the journey and not be too hard on myself. I tell myself Rome wasn't built in a day and celebrate the fact that I'm making the right choices day in and out. This week it's been really tough though. I want to cry thinking about it, my therapist is in for an earful. [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 13 Jun 2021 03:01 AM PDT I've been working my ass off at the gym since they reopened at the end of April and I've been averaging a loss of about 1lb per week which is fine as I know they all add up. I was out with friends yesterday and they were taking a lot of pictures which they all shared into our WhatsApp group and I just hate myself in every single one. I felt really good yesterday but seeing how huge I look I just feel totally defeated like all this hard work is just doing nothing. I mentioned on my last post that I've been going through a break up and I'm still struggling with that but recently I'd felt a lot better due to the gym and having a goal of getting myself in shape and feeling good, but after those pictures yesterday I just feel embarrassed. I'm basically going to use those pictures as motivation to keep working hard, but it's definitely got me upset and I just wanted to vent. [link] [comments] |
| So a long story about constantly restarting Posted: 13 Jun 2021 06:52 AM PDT So this is a long story. Like 7 or 8 years ago I was doing awesome. Doing t25 and insanity. Using my fitness pal. I felt great was at 200 pounds. Once that was done and a bit of real life changes happened. Tried going back andngettin in the groove again. It never formulated. 4 years ago I start going to CrossFit and learning about diets and started shedding off the weight again and gaining some muscle. Really awesome actually got a few pounds under 200 which was pretty awesome. But then I started giving up. My drive for doing everything changed when I wasn't happy at the gym anymore. I had changed locations and I felt like I was giving up. March 2020 I hurt my back at the gym. I could barely get out of bed for 2 to 3 weeks. Took along time to move around with out pain. So of course I ate my feeling. That same week my area everything shut down due to covid. Really sucked especially once I could start moving around. So tried following my macros was doing okay but once I finally returned to work ( we were consider a essential company) I was promoted to a supervisor. And this is where I start going off the rails. The stress I didn't account for. 30 year employees fighting my every word ( I'm really just a glorified middle man) bringing that stress home and breweries just reopening was great. Every weekend at least pop in for a food truck and a couple beers maybe 2 times in a weekend. I though I had it under control. I was still in a caloric deficient all week and balancing not ruining the weekend. ( Or so I thought) I developed another issue. Weekly when I'm by my self doing some food shopping or errands or laundry my brain thinks it's time to go ham and eat all the junk before I get home. I didn't think in my 40s I would be doing that. I'd hit a Wendy's or sonic or burger king and just over eat and be sick to my stomach the next day. But always with the mind set I'll restart tomorrow. Finally this year we join a gym in the beginning. We get a good few months in and feeling good again. I started paying attention to my diet, but the junk and beer issue didn't stop. We actually found out this gym was closing it's doors while at a brewery. Fast forward to today. Started 2 weeks ago working out in our apartment. We have some equipment enough to get my now 230lb self sweating profusely. But had a couple beers yesterday and some food from a food truck and then stopped on the way home and got some snacks..... I'm ashamed in myself for getting this bad. I have redone my macros over and over as I've gained weight. My macros originally worked but I get so defeated on doing them some times. Some days I barely get 1200 in due to work and just by the time I get home. At work you can't eat on the floor (factory work) only during breaks and in a 10 hour day it's 15 15 30 and I still can only get in so much. Then at home it's like stuff yourself to get as close as you can. There are some days I'm like I just want to eat a little and go to bed instead. Then it basically goes to a vicious circle and starts again the next week. Sometimes I feel like as easy as macros are it's either to much of a chore or I make it seem that way. I didn't want to be going on vacation next month looking as crappy as I do. Thanks for reading . This was me venting and seeing it in writing has really made me realize some things. And this can happen to anyone at any age. I need to start and keep on track. [link] [comments] |
| Why I don't lose weight at all but gain it so fast ? Posted: 12 Jun 2021 11:56 PM PDT 23F. I'm 5'2 and I weigh 66 kg(~146lbs) currently. Since 5 months Ive been strictly avoiding all kinds of processed and fried food and only eating healthier food with lots of fruits and veggies. When I mean strictly I mean STRICTLY. I haven't eaten a single gram of processed sugar in 5 months. Although I've not done proper weight training( which I'm guilty) I've been doing decent amount of cardio about 45min-1hr everyday. I eat about 1,300-1,400 calories a day and burn 300-400 by cardio. Which leaves me at 1000-1100 cal/day. Which is 700 calorie defecit according to my body. And yet I didn't lose a single pound. Yes, not a gram lost. But, here comes the best part. Last week was one of my best friends birthday. And I was already frustrated about not making any progress despite my hard work and said fk it and ate the bad sugary food again. Like my calories were 1700-1800 a day for the whole week. Still exercised the same everyday tho And guess what, I've gained 1 kg!! (~2 lbs) ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ I want to cryðŸ˜ðŸ˜ 5 months of hard work and not a single pound lost but only a week of bad meal and I'm already up a kilo!! What is this???!? ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ Can someone please explain what I'm doing wrong here and why I'm gaining weight from eating one piece of cake😠[link] [comments] |
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