Weight loss: Someone told me to kill myself on a dating app |
- Someone told me to kill myself on a dating app
- No-Scale Victory
- Seriously... take progress photos.
- Lose weight for YOU
- UPDATE - I've had enough (W1)
- what’s it like to be skinny?
- For those of you who have lost 60lbs or more...
- This... this is not sustainable.
- 20 months since I started tracking my food and weight, here's where I am right now!
- cried during a peloton class today and a major NSV observed
- Dating after losing it...when you look normal with clothes but naked you look like a melting droopy jiggly cartoon character
- Achieved my weight goal of 150lbs! Here's my story with pictures and NSVs.
- 21.03.2018 vs 21.03.2021
- Weight loss tracker - r/loseit with me!!
- Has anyone had any success losing weight WITHOUT counting calories? (Possible TW: disordered eating)
- Finally brought up my self-image in therapy, 5 years after I started losing weight.
- 322 days in
- I would do anything to lose weight
- Amazes Me How Obsessed People are With Women's Weight
- The Pants Saga, Part III: HEY, THEY FIT NOW!
- Victory! Hit my goal ��
- There will come a time where that craving you've been trying to kick goes away
- I can't lose seemingly any more weight, any advice?
- 24-Hour Pledge - Monday, 22 March 2021 - The Plan for Today!
| Someone told me to kill myself on a dating app Posted: 21 Mar 2021 02:01 PM PDT 33 year old male here. I am on the shorter side, 5 foot 8 and currently 245 pounds. I've been feeling awful about my weight. I was as high as 270 at one point. Been kinda stagnant between 230-250 past year or so. I went on a dating app and got quite a few rejections. I've had comments here and there, mean comments, or just the classic "ewwww!" Yesterday someone told me to kill myself if a heart attack didn't do the job first. I know these people are assholes, but I do feel extremely uncomfortable being this size. My weight for sure closes a lot of doors for me. I do know there are a few people out there who do find me attractive, but getting to a healthy weight would vastly increase the number of potential dates. I also would feel better about myself which in turn would make dating a lot easier. Just a long rant. People are cruel but I'm at the point where I don't really feel like saying "well screw those people!" Because honestly, it's the vast majority of people who won't date a fat guy or girl. After 100+ attempts to lose weight, I'm gonna try again. Hopefully I will be looking at this post in 6 months and 50 pounds lighter and feel a sense of accomplishment. [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 21 Mar 2021 11:45 AM PDT This is really small, but I've been getting frustrated with my weight loss recently so it still helps: yesterday I had to go into town and I missed my bus. The next one would have been ten minutes later and it was a beautiful day, so I was like 'No way I'm sitting on this bench for ten minutes when I can literally be there in ten minutes if I walk" so I started walking. And as I was walking, I realized that until maybe one year ago, I would have sat on a bench for thirty minutes to avoid ten minutes of walking. Now I'm a bit lighter and a bit stronger, I actually enjoy walking. It's a stupid thing maybe, but there you go. Wanted to share because this sub's encouraged me a lot. [link] [comments] |
| Seriously... take progress photos. Posted: 21 Mar 2021 08:11 AM PDT I'm currently about 40 pounds down from my highest weight. For the past week or so, I was stuck in a funk feeling like my body hadn't changed at all. I still felt squishy and wide. I still have a belly that sticks out, jiggly arms and thighs, and have always had big boobs (which feel like they've stayed exactly the same size). I'm now in the healthy weight range for my height, but I felt like I was back at the beginning, when I was 180 lbs. In an attempt to prove I had changed, I took some new mirror selfies, and looked through old Facebook photos. But I couldn't see much of difference. In all of them I was posed, wearing my best-fitting clothes, standing up straight, and sucking in my gut. I could see I was a little narrower now, but nothing extreme like I expected. But this morning, my boyfriend was looking through old photos on his phone. He pulled up one I'd never seen from over a year ago. I was lying on the bed with our cat, and the photo was taken from a very unflattering angle. I was shocked. I had back rolls. I was squeezed into my jeans, and my stomach stuck out over them. I looked wide. None of these are features I see in current pictures of myself, where I look pretty slim and really don't have any obvious rolls at all. I realized that I have changed... a lot. And in fact I'd always denied that I looked like this and avoided these unflattering pictures. All this to say—take progress pictures! Not just perfectly posed ones with flattering clothing. Take naked, natural pictures that show the rolls and the lumps. And if you are well into your weight loss journey and never took progress photos, then ask your friends or loved ones for some old pics. They might have some candids that will really show the difference! [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 22 Mar 2021 01:58 AM PDT I've recently come to the realization that I'm surrounded by two very different types of people in my life. [warning: mentions of eating disorders] In my hometown, every single person I'm related to is morbidly obese and deals with severe health problems. I remember as a child at like 8-years-old saying my biggest fear was ending up in a state like my parents, which is really sad in retrospect, but I'm kind of glad I was at least aware that it was an issue. Once I moved to college EVERYTHING changed. 4/5 of my closest friends have struggled with eating disorders to the point two of them were once hospitalized and sent to live in residential facilities to recover — I so happen to live with them too. Anyway, I gained like 20 pounds over quarantine and grew horribly out of shape. The weight is whatever, but I felt miserable and weak and sore, and I'd been meaning to start eating healthier and exercising again. But this was heavily discouraged and I was told "you look fine, you don't need to watch what you eat" over and over by my friends because to them, it looked like ED behavior. I ended up putting off exercising for months, out of guilt I guess. Weight and self esteem kept getting worse. Didn't understand how I looked "fine" when I certainly didn't feel fine, and my friends kept regulating and commenting about what I was eating if it seemed like it was less than them. This sounds absolutely terrible when I write it out, but I knew it came from a place of love and concern for me. So anyway, I woke up one day and realized "holy shit they don't get it," like the opposite end of the spectrum, and that it was OKAY for me to do something that wasn't okay for other people to do. That I'm in control of what I want to do my own body. I've lost a few pounds before, gotten incredibly in shape and felt absolutely wonderful without it spinning into disordered behavior. So. Here's to finally bettering my body again. I realized "you don't need to do that" is really unhelpful to hear, so I'm here to tell the people of Reddit to "get off your lazy a** and make the changes you want to see" for all the people who aren't being encouraged in ways they need! [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 21 Mar 2021 08:31 PM PDT Hi everyone! It's been almost a week since i've decided to once again start making changes in my life regarding my weigth. I found a lot of support the day I posted here, and I decided I will be sharing some updates with this community as part of my plan. As suggested, I read the starting guide and i'm still checking on that. I have not started logging all the food but i'm starting this week. I settled up some realistic goals for this first week, and I am happy that I could achieve them. That was:
I'm going back on MyFitnessPal this week and i'll start tracking my weigth. My husband has been supporting me, no junk food around this week and he has complimented the meals I have made, so we are both happy with how it is going. Thanks for reading! :) [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 22 Mar 2021 04:21 AM PDT i'm sorry if this is a dumb question. i've been overweight~obese my entire life. i think the only time i was at a normal bmi was when i was 11 years old, even then i was still a bit chubby. i recently went from 227 lbs to 194 (i'm 5'4) and i noticed getting up is easier? like if i've been sitting on the ground and i get up, my knees don't hurt and it's easier. my feet don't hurt anymore in the morning. working out, walking etc is easier too. but i'm still obese so the difference isn't big. so for the people who went from obese to normal bmi, what does it feel like?what's the difference in your everyday life? [link] [comments] |
| For those of you who have lost 60lbs or more... Posted: 22 Mar 2021 05:15 AM PDT Hi all! I have posted here last week when I started my new lifestyle change. I have been doing great and have lost 3lbs so far :). I have a question that has been in the back of my mind and would like to know some of your experiences with losing a large amount of weight. Did you experience loose skin or stretch marks while losing weight? What products (if any) helped you? I am trying to lose around 60lbs and I am nervous about loose skin or if my stretch marks will become more prominent when I hit my goal. I just want to have a realistic expectation of what to expect. Thank you guys for all of your support, you guys are amazing people. [link] [comments] |
| This... this is not sustainable. Posted: 21 Mar 2021 07:40 PM PDT Monday-Friday - completely on point with my calories. Weigh every thing, down to the gram. Log every down to the gram. Always at a deficit for my daily calorie goal. Saturday- slightly exceed calorie goal (we're taking 50-100) so no big deal cause I've been at a deficit all week. Sunday- I miss food, I miss feeling food, I miss eating, I miss cheese, and pasta, and and and and , I'm gonna eat this and this and this and this............. 4000k+ calories or more later I've binged my way through another Sunday. Monday will be guilt Monday for what I did. So I will restrict even more. Tuesday- I have the thought "I'm gonna have bad days" 1 day is t gonna mess up 5 days of doing good..... or is it. Wednesday/ - have a fraction of a loss puzzled why it isn't more, cause it's been '3 days since the binge@ Thurs/Fri" hope for a loss cause I'm "doing good this week" and always below my daily. And now we're here again. I hate binge eating, I hate that I've eaten well over 3-4K calories today. As an older person, I feel like I don't fit in with this sub. But I'm here. I had to write this down somewhere. I wish you a pleasant day/morning/evening when ever you read this. Edit to add: 5'3" 187 lbs usually eat 1100-1300 Monday-Friday/ Saturday I'll "splurge" with 1300-1400 [link] [comments] |
| 20 months since I started tracking my food and weight, here's where I am right now! Posted: 22 Mar 2021 02:02 AM PDT Hello there! I first want to thank this community for it's positivity and energy. Back in july 2019 I went on a vacation with friends and when I saw the pictures afterwards I was shocked to see what 3 years of university had done to me. That I really had become fat. I'm your average 6ft or 1,83m and weighed 216lbs/98kg. I learned so much on this sub and decided to start tracking my weight on mondays and thursdays since thursday is for the bois and thus my cheat day. 6 days of decreased input and more workouts / sports activities helped me to lose 22lbs/10kgs in 16 weeks! So before christmas 2019 I was at a way better point. After that came 3 months of winter and less options for sports activities and more eating. But then the coronavirus came along and I decided to follow all my education from my hometown and pushed myself to home workouts and dedicated my weeks to running those 5K's 3 times a week. One year later and now I'm at exactly the same point weightwise (198lbs/90kg) but are in way better shape physically (I started with 5,6km in 40min last year and I did 7km in the same timeframe yesterday). I managed to get to 181lbs/82kgs down last year till summer (healthy BMI, yeah!) and I hope to go the extra mile to get down to get below 176lbs/80kgs this year around! I learned I am a "lazy eater", when I don't do much or don't plan stuff I just eat and eat and eat. My plan is to decrease my input to around 16.000 kcal and increase my output by adding one cardio workout every day besides getting my 6000 steps in, soccer training on wednesdays and 1-2 5k's a week. I've got 4 months till my two year journey anniversary, so that means 2lbs/0,8kg per week to go. [link] [comments] |
| cried during a peloton class today and a major NSV observed Posted: 21 Mar 2021 03:38 PM PDT hey all, I had one of the most surreal experiences today: I was doing a peloton class (just got peloton tread yday and super excited as walking is all I like to do) and I was looking at the instructor - this really well toned, well defined, healthy looking , energetic instructor and I just immediately felt so SAD. I thought suddenly what if I was in a room with him, and all of the other instructors? it would just be me, an overweight, sad and out-of-breath frumpy woman in the middle of this room of super healthy beautiful people. I felt soooooo inadequate in that moment. I know it is irrational, who knows how someone feels on the inside, right? but just in terms of how far I have to go health wise and self-esteem wise I felt so sad. it made me later reflect how far I have come too, though. 2 years ago, my self-esteem was in the gutter. I had 0 value for myself and my actions reflected that very clearly. I dated the worse kinda guys a young, intelligent, driven and funny woman could go for. guys who just wanted me for something or just to waste time with. I had friends who walked all over me, and I would let them because 'I only saw the good in people' and also kept a LOT of shit bottled up inside to the point of bursting (oh, and I did lol). that weird image of me in the middle amongst all these beautiful, shining, healthy people made me feel inadequate, helpless and useless. I imagined them all cheering me on, the fat girl. the project. the odd one out. I cried quite a bit. I felt sad quite a bit too. I really did. I had to compose myself and continue with the class only to later think back and realise - hey you didn't actually harper on this negative thought as long as you usually would have. that moment was hard, tough and showed me I still have a long ways to go in terms of my mental well being, self esteem, self love, self care and self-actualisation (with my appearance). but it also made me think how far I HAVE come. now I don't give ANY guy who isn't what I need (at a minimum) the time of day (I've had too many bad experiences lol). I have almost less than half the friends I had 2 years ago (omg so many users and abusers lol). I don't keep ANY toxic people in my life now. not at all. it made me realise how much I have become stronger generally. how much more aware I am of my mental needs now. and how I actually have a lot more energy now (realised this when I switched from MFP to loseit! and I was answering the sign up questions), how I sleep better and how I haven't eaten in secret for almost 5 months now. 5 months!!!! I was a super ninja secret eater for goodness sakes! I would sneak plates and plates of food in my room - DAILY. now, even dessert (which I have accounted for), I eat it openly and in front of my household members. yes I know they may think, 'hmmmm don't eat that ice cream' or whatever but now I can actually remind myself - hey you COUNTED these calories in. don't worry about it. or don't worry this is your one treat this week, forget what they're thinking or saying. or stop overthinking, not everyone gives a shit about what your eating (lol). major self-conscious fat person syndrome peaking here. all this to say, I still time-to-time feel depressed about my weight and how I look. I do. I won't life. I do feel like this journey is incredibly long (and I hate that tremendously). and I do wish that I was born with the body of a model, or whatever but I just try my utmost best to remind myself I can do this. everyday I come on this forum looking for that extra push, and everyday I find it. when I read about people who started at 400+ walking everyday even though it makes them out of breath, or see photos of women who were 300+ (like me) and are now 150-ish (my GW), I feel so motivated and comforted. im not sure why I wanted to share this here, I guess I just wanted to get it off my chest. this road to health and fitness is sooooooo hard and soooooo long but going to be soooooooooooooooo so so so so soooo so much worth it. and I have to keep telling myself that. I want to love myself and see myself how I see other people. I have nothing much love for others around me and on this forum. I hope, hope, hope and pray super hard I can reach my goal soon too. have a good night everyone. [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 21 Mar 2021 09:12 PM PDT Ive always been fat but worked out and ate right, lost 100lbs. I went from 280lb to 180lb on keto diet in like a year. Im 5'10" and when clothed i look real good. But my midsection, stomach, has very loose skin, and i have stretch marks. I had a consultation with a plastic surgeon just to see the process, he said im a text book candidate for a routine tummy tuck and all that but it will be painful recovery. Im a big baby as well so im not all about getting cut up, and having a catheter in my penis during surergon and until the day after (that just gives me the chills of something inside my penis hole, sorry for being graphic), plus somesort of valves in my stomach to drain fluid build up and all that shit for a week or two or something. Plus like $15k. Nawww pass, i just stay looking shitty. So, when i was heavier at least the photos immediately told the person "hey this dude is big" so they knew what they were getting. Now that im more of a normal weight and look good clothed i feel like its a cat-fishing thing. Im not going to post a photo of me shirtless on my tinder or dating profile, i am self conscious about it no doubt, but i feel if i did that people will be turned off and not even try to give me a chance plus is a dood posting a shirt less photo a bit douchey anyways? i dont think id do it even if i looked good. Do i mention it in the profile? When we meet, bring it up in convo? i think ive done this the most. Ive had quite a few hook ups on tinder where its just instant hooking up with not much discussion or courtship prior, basically they come over and its on! but the look of disappointment as i have taken my shirt off on the girls faces. Its embarrassing. Who else is in the same boat? [link] [comments] |
| Achieved my weight goal of 150lbs! Here's my story with pictures and NSVs. Posted: 22 Mar 2021 05:27 AM PDT x-post from /r/keto, but I think people on this sub will appreciate this as well! 30 - Male - 5,7 - SW: 218 lbs - GW: 150 lbs What a journey. Last year during October, my life had taken a turn for the worst (or so I thought) and decided I needed a drastic switch in life style. One of the things was losing weight, which I started doing but in the wrong damn way. Instead of starting with keto from the very start I started with a crash diet, something u shouldn't do. Why I didn't start with keto at first? My mind was elsewhere and I just wanted to lose weight and fast and didn't care for anything else. After doing the crash diet for 3-4 months I wanted to switch it up cause I was getting tired of the same food, the same amount of calories and what not. I think I ate around 700-800 calories a day, with sometimes a cheatmeal once every week but that was it, so I heard some things regarding keto and started to do some research about it and there was only one thing that came to mind once I read the very basics. "Why didn't I do this sooner??" With lots of help on /r/keto I tracked everything I put in my food, was more picky with the food I bought and carefully checked that my macros were in order. After 1-2 weeks of doing the tracking I got used to it and I actually find it fun to do! I'll keep doing it for a very long time! Apart from following strict-keto I also did some IF from time to time, doing Omad and even a 59+ hours fast just to see how far I can push myself. 2 Months of doing keto and going to the gym 5 times a week (started going to the gym when I started doing the crash diet) and I FEEL GOOD. Some nsv's I encountered a long the way that brought a smile on my face:
I'm taking a break from keto for at least 1-2 months to check if recomp is going to work for me. If not I'm certain I head back on the keto! [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 21 Mar 2021 08:49 AM PDT Posting this photo only because it makes me so happy and soo proud. Guys, please understand the significance of progress pictures. Nothing would motivate you more when you see real day by day progress. Even when there are not many changes to the weighing scale, keep noticing how your body changes week by week or month by month. Keep taking your photos as when you see how much you've changed as compared to before, it quite literally sends a tear down your eye. I am 87 kgs right now, started from 124/125 kg and my weight loss has really slowed down, almost more or less a plateau now, but I am not killing myself over it. I am learning to enjoy the journey. Thank you everyone. This sub has been really motivational. [link] [comments] |
| Weight loss tracker - r/loseit with me!! Posted: 22 Mar 2021 03:00 AM PDT Hi! I decided that I need to do something. And here, I am doing it. This post, this community and this sub will hold me accountable for my journey. Starting from today, I will do some form of exercise and will update everyday with a photograph as a proof. You can contribute/cheer/join in in the comments. This lockdown has made me realise the importance of having people in life and this is the way I will bring people to me and make them a part of my journey. As of now, I weigh about 86 kg/175 cm and my GW is about 68 kg. I know it's overkill but given my field of work, I can not afford to be un-healthy. Alright then beauties: Day-0 | 21 March | Jog - 3.2km |85 | Day-1 | 22 March | Jog - 3.3km |85 | Day-2 | 23 March | ? | ? | Day-3 | 24 March | ? | ? | Day-4 | 25 March | ? | ? | Day-5 | 26 March | ? | ? | Day-6 | 27 March | ? | ? | Day-7 | 28 March | ? | ? | Day-8 | 29 March | ? | ? | Day-9 | 30 March | ? | ? | [link] [comments] |
| Has anyone had any success losing weight WITHOUT counting calories? (Possible TW: disordered eating) Posted: 22 Mar 2021 05:41 AM PDT First off. I know a lot of people on this sub believe that calorie counting is the only way to lose weight. But I ask that you read my post fully before responding with that. I am F/28/5'3" and 151lbs. I am overweight according to BMI, and the heaviest I've ever been. I feel and look my best when I weigh around 120lbs, so that's what I'd like to get back to. But the catch is that I need to do it without counting calories. I've lost 35lbs and gained it back again twice before. Both times using the calorie counting method via My Fitness Pal. Both times, as soon as I stopped calorie counting, the weight piled straight back on. I used to think to myself "when I try again, I'm going to have to commit to calorie counting every day for the rest of my life otherwise I'll just gain weight again". But the idea of this is so miserable and depressing that it's put me off trying to lose weight again for years. Recently, the more I think about it, the more I realise that calorie counting just isn't right for me. While I'm sure it works well for others, for me, it's no better than a fad diet. I do it for a while and it "works" but it's unsustainable to do it forever, and as soon as I stop, I gain weight again. The main 2 reasons I need to do this without calorie counting are:
All I do is sit there planning my meals out all day long, worrying about calories and macros, and weighing every tiny piece of onion and carrot and apple and slice of bread. If I don't know the exact calories in something (e.g. because it's my husband's turn to make dinner and he hasn't weighed the ingredients) it sends me into a full-on panic and I don't want to eat at all. Any spare moment during the day, I'm on the app looking at the calories in this or that or analysing my weight loss graph. If I accidentally eat over my calorie goal, or worry that I might have (e.g. husband's meal), I end up exercising obsessively to try and offset it. If I'm too busy to exercise one day and log it in the app, it sends me into another panic. I have tried, tried, and tried to count calories in a more relaxed way. I've tried telling myself "just eat what you think is right and then log it at the END of the day, just to see if you're on track, that way you'll stop obsessively planning meals". But it doesn't work. It's like as soon as I open that app, a calorie obsessed monster overtakes my brain and I can't help myself. I have come to realise that I probably have some form of disordered eating, or issue with food restriction and control, and calorie counting is a massive trigger for it. The reason that I gain weight whenever I'm not counting is because I can't allow myself to think too much about what I'm eating, otherwise I panic that I haven't figured out the calories. So I eat mindlessly. And then I gain weight. In the past few years I have worked HARD on loving myself and accepting my body even though it's overweight. I've realised my obsessive food restriction and calorie counting in the past has come from a place of hating myself and hating the way I look, and that's so wrong. I can now happily say that I love my body, and my motivation for weight loss this time is that I care about myself. And because I care, I want my body to be as healthy as it can be. So I have started the process of trying to lose weight purely by making sensible and rational choices about what to eat. I've decided it's okay to look at calories on packets to compare foods (i.e. to decide which brand to buy) but I won't log back into that app or start staring at numbers again. I have to learn to make healthy choices on my own, without a computer telling me what to do. I want to listen to my body and eat when I genuinely feel hungry, base my portion sizes on government guidelines, and stop eating when I no longer feel hungry (as opposed to when I feel stuffed and can't eat another bite). I want to learn to tell the difference between a craving and genuine hunger. I want to exercise regularly because it feels good to take care of my body, not because I have to burn X amount of calories. I have been trying to make sensible choices for a week now. I have cut out alcohol, and high-calorie snacks that offer little to no nutritional value (biscuits, crisps, cakes, sweets, chocolate, pastries). If I want to snack I have a piece of fruit or some celery or carrot sticks. I've deliberately been eating smaller portions. So far I have lost 1.4lbs. That might seem tiny but it is a huge achievement for me after being the same exact weight now for over a year. It's the first time I've ever successfully started a weight loss journey without calorie counting. I don't care how slowly I lose the weight - even if it's only 1/4 of a pound per week - just as long as it keeps going in the right direction. I'm expecting to get a lot of comments telling me that I'm setting myself up for failure and that the ONLY way to lose weight is to weigh and track what you eat. But I know that's not true. My mum lost around 40lbs without tracking a single calorie (and has maintained it now for at least 5 years). So I know it can be done. I'd love to hear from other people who have had success in losing weight without calorie counting. Were you able to/are you on course for achieving your goal weight? Did you find that you were able to maintain a healthy weight once you reached your goal? What have you learned? [link] [comments] |
| Finally brought up my self-image in therapy, 5 years after I started losing weight. Posted: 21 Mar 2021 07:26 PM PDT I wanted to share something I'm going through, maybe I'll find some shared experiences, maybe someone else will need to hear it: I've been losing for 5 years. I think the graph speaks for itself. See that tiny tail down at the end? I've been hitting my kcal goals every day. Very easily too. Easiest it's ever been. And I don't know if this is good or bad, it just is. About 4 days ago, I just stopped having my normal cravings and appetite. At first I wondered if I was sick when I noticed hours passing before I realized it was time to eat; the real reason is probably psychological. It started with a therapy session and a bit of a mental break down. I explained to my therapist how I feel I'm not pretty enough, short enough, skinny enough. And retelling about the years of bullying from school peers and family alike about my weight, lead her to say that's unacceptable. No one had ever said to me that the bullying wasn't deserved, and that it was wrong to be treated like that. Hell, I wasn't even fat as a kid. I didn't become obese till my adult years. I was told to imagine hugging myself, myself being the little kid who had not one adult in her life to reassure her about her body image. The practice is uncomfortable and difficult. I'm not good with kids, but I can't treat her the way I treat myself. Whenever I get emotional I think about what she has to say and what she needs to hear. So having these mental conversations with a more honest, more emotional version of myself I spiralled hard into questions about why I was losing weight in the first place. Who am I trying to appease? What do I want? And it turned out I wanted to get skinnier to look cuter (not sexy, not handsome, not beautiful, not healthy, just cute). I really was a cute kid, but I was and am very tall, and for a little kid who wanted to be seen as "girly" that can be a surprisingly hard thing to navigate. I thought cuteness or "girly-ness" was something I didn't get to have. And being skinny would give it back to me because being fat was the barrier. Fat was the reason I felt bad and was treated bad. Not all the shitty social pressures, media, and people in my life. It was so bad I gave up many of my dreams because I didn't think I looked right for it. I still became a performer, but there were some sections of showbiz I chose not to tread into ("pretty voice needs a pretty face" is a disgusting practice that exists to this day). Well, now I don't know about that. I don't know if I can lose weight for anybody else. I don't know if I want to stay out of those places in the biz. What I want is to not be judged for my personal style, to not be hated or disrespected for anything to do with my appearance. I wanna put on my cutest outfit and feel like it looks good NOW at 165lbs, and would have been good at 239lbs too! Part of appetite loss is from obsessively practicing all the things I shelved and looking into how I want to arrange the aesthetic choices in my life. Another is low mood, from being disappointed from how far behind I am on my oldest dreams. I think another part is seeing how I can fill my life with other things. It's definitely trope-y and cheesy but there's a bit of a hole in my heart, and I'm starting to find other things to fill it that aren't eating. Thanks for reading my rant. I don't know this low-appetite will last forever, but it's been eye opening. It anybody has similar experiences I'd love to hear them! Please don't be shy, it would mean the world to me. [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 21 Mar 2021 10:50 PM PDT Just doing a quick check in, I want to be able to look back on my journey and see the full picture. My previous two posts were pretty hopeful, from when I was in a good place, seeing progress and feeling good. I'm getting close to a year of doing this, and my mental health is not great. Well some days it's great, others, like today, I struggle. My jerk brain has been able to convince me that my 40lb weight loss has been in my head. That I'm crazy for thinking I could do this, that I am a failure for still being fat, that I just suck and everything good in my life is a few steps away from being gone as soon as everyone else figures it out too. I've had strong thoughts to "punish" myself, including doing a week long fast to make up for my lack of progress, urges to slap myself, crazy mood swings and crying. I'm tired of being fat, I'm tired of my fucking allergies being bad, I'm tired of doing workouts that to others would be warm ups, I'm tired. I'm going to keep going, I'm going to keep working at this, and pushing, and I won't give up, but God damn if I don't want to with every fiber of my being. To just turn it all off, go into autopilot, let the stress win. I gotta remind myself that even not having lost weight since the beginning of February, I've also been eating more, smaller deficit and water weight from all the exercise increases and any fat loss is being hidden. The math is there, it's telling me that I should have lost 7lbs since I started working out, and there is no way that isn't happening even if I can't see it and the scale won't tell me. Any words of support are gladly appreciated, I'm having just a really hard day, but even if you don't have anything to say, I hope this shows that you aren't alone in your struggles. [link] [comments] |
| I would do anything to lose weight Posted: 21 Mar 2021 09:15 PM PDT I am struggling so much with my weight and I am exhausted from trying to change it. Nothing works, I work out but not enough, I count calories but then get depressed or forget. I want to punish myself for being such a disgusting pig. I was looking at laxatives recently and it's so tempting. I've done it in the past but now I'm almost 30 and need to grow up. I miss never being stuffed, I miss not feeling bloated, I miss being skinny. I'm a female with a 40 BMI and I just can't lose weight. I want to give up but I can't, I just wish I could cut all the fat off with scissors. I'm so desperate but when I don't get the results I want from diet and exercise I feel so overwhelmed. My depression makes it even harder, I can't even cook anything I'm just too tired. I am so sorry if this isn't appropriate, I am so exhausted and so sick of being fat I need help. I would do anything to lose weight fast, I just feel like I'm running out of options. [link] [comments] |
| Amazes Me How Obsessed People are With Women's Weight Posted: 22 Mar 2021 06:19 AM PDT Everything is going swimmingly with my weight loss journey since having my baby over 5 months ago now - as of this posting I have lost 20lbs and only have around 10 more to lose. However... It amazes me how many people comment on your weight and have no issue with saying such direct comments to you about it!! When I was still showing some major belly fat and just returned to work after maternity leave, I had a woman come up to me and ask me "Are you pregnant?" LIKE W.T.F. Now that I am losing more, people say things like: "You are looking better!" (What - did I look ill before?) or my dad who before he even said hi to me the other day said "How much do you weigh now?" (UH WOW) and "You are starting to get your figure back". During the whole weight loss process more than one person has said "You still have belly fat to lose.." Why do people think it is okay to openly make comments about someone's weight? It would be different if I brought up the conversations beforehand and those comments happened, but never once did I bring up anything about my weight. I have actually been pretty quiet about the whole thing because who wants to hear about my weight loss!? My husband is only person I have talked about it openly to but he sees me naked so he would figure it out anyway.. Have you all experienced frustrating comments about your weight with no notice? Especially any women out there who have had a baby or currently pregnant? [link] [comments] |
| The Pants Saga, Part III: HEY, THEY FIT NOW! Posted: 21 Mar 2021 06:41 PM PDT Title says it all. Back in January I bought new jeans online, realized I accidentally ordered them way too small. (Ordered size 32, actually needed size 40). I could squeeze my ass into them but my stomach was hanging out and I couldn't pull the two sides together to button them no matter how hard I tried; there was a good 6-7 inch gap that would need to close. I took this as a sign from the universe that I should finally break the "buy new pants / get too big for the pants / buy new pants" cycle, and try losing weight for the first time in my life. So I started CICO, started exercising a little bit, and 2 months later I've lost 26 lbs! And the pants fit!!! And it's not just those pants; I've got old pants I never thought I'd fit into again that I can finally wear once more. I've got some other old pants that still don't fit, but I'm now confident that I'll be able to wear them again one day if I just keep going. I wasn't expecting the pants to fit so soon. I didn't start this journey with an end goal weight in mind; I just wanted to fit these pants. But I now trust this process so wholeheartedly that I think I could realistically get to a "normal" BMI in a year or two. I was in the middle of the "obese" range when I started, and I'm now 6 lbs away from entering the "overweight" range. I'm probably preaching to the choir here, but wow, cico WORKS! It's amazing! It feels like I've been doing a crazy exciting science experiment for the past two months. I've learned so much about how weight loss works. This sub has taught me so much and I'm so grateful for it. Reading people's personal stories about weight loss has been really motivational and one of the main forces keeping me excited and interested through this all. So thanks, LoseIt! F / 5'9" / SW: 233 lbs / CW: 206 lbs TL;DR: My previously way-too-small pants now fit after I did CICO for 2 months. CICO works! [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 21 Mar 2021 02:56 PM PDT I hit my goal at my weigh-in on Friday! I'm so excited about it, this was my first time achieving an intentionally-set weight loss goal. I have some body image issues and elected not to take progress pics (regrets!). Instead, I dug out a box of clothes I last wore in...maybe 2016/2017? Unforgivingly tight skirts I loved intensely but grew out of in more recent years. THEY FIT (!!!) just like I remember them fitting when I bought them. I can't wait for warm weather so I can wear them with pride! I wasn't mentally prepared to achieve my goal because I was up a bit at my previous weigh-in and now I have some nervousness heading into maintenance mode. I'm planning to add in 50-100 cals a day each week until I find the right amount, using a TDEE estimator to gauge what I should be aiming for. I don't think I will ever be able to stop weigh ins and tracking calories, but it doesn't feel so burdensome now (even when I need to create a MFP recipe). I have a deep and abiding gratitude for all of you who constantly inspired me along the way. For those of you waiting for the right time to start, the time is now! Much love to all 🥰❤️ [link] [comments] |
| There will come a time where that craving you've been trying to kick goes away Posted: 22 Mar 2021 05:39 AM PDT Hey everyone, I've been informally dieting for 1 month now and officially really kicked it into high gear about a week ago. When I was a kid my mom didn't let me eat a lot of candy or really processed foods like poptarts and stuff so I've never really had the biggest sweet tooth, but when I got older and started having my own money and mobility I was able to buy the things I liked. I'm someone who likes a variety of flavours which is often why I fail at diets - i'm unable to deal with the monotony of meal prep and cooking every day takes too much time/energy as much as i love to cook. Anyways the point with that being i love sour candy. When i was in the throngs of my ED i would buy a bag of it and subsist on only that for a couple of days, to the point where i burned holes in my tongue and mouth from all the acid. Fast forward some years and i moved to a country where they don't have much sour candy that appeals to me, so i just stopped eating it bc i couldn't. Lost some weight! But then.....i discovered a different convenience store that carried sour gummy worms for buy 2 get 1....and the bad habit started again. When I started my diet i tried to impose limits on things I knew were unhealthy and try to do an overtly healthy thing at least once a week. The biggest one was "only eat 1 serving size of candy a day" then "1 serving size every other day" then "only eat it on your cheat days" then "only eat it if you really want to". I also limited my soda intake to 1 can of something less than 150 cal (easy to find where i live). Today was a cheat day so I woke up and took a sip from my soda, it was a new flavour to me but I hated it so i just poured it down the drain. Then i took a piece of candy....and immediately spit it out. My body just didn't want it and it tasted gross to me for some reason. I guess now that my brain is less addicted to sugar i'm tasting my real feelings on the candy. I've had moments where I've eaten candy and didn't enjoy it all that much, but this was the first time where i was actively disgusted by it. So I just put the bag away and carried on with my day. So yeah, that day will come when you realize that coffee, chocolate, candy, donut, cookie, etc. you can't get enough of, most of the time isn't really that great or something you need. Hang in there, and don't give up! [link] [comments] |
| I can't lose seemingly any more weight, any advice? Posted: 22 Mar 2021 03:57 AM PDT Hello guys! This is an update from my previous post about my progress So basically, i can't lose more weight seemingly no matter what I do. I am 175cm, 16 yo, mesomorph body type but I can't surpass the 77kgs barrier. I practically do everything right, go to the gym almost any day doing weights and cardio, eating protein, carbs and some fats, eating water, good sleep, etc. I am so frustrated that at the moment I am eating 1500 when in reality (based on some calculations) i should eat around 2300 to lose weight. I am so fucking frustrated right now because I have nasty insertions and I would look great on a low body fat but I can't breakthrough that, any thoughts? [link] [comments] |
| 24-Hour Pledge - Monday, 22 March 2021 - The Plan for Today! Posted: 21 Mar 2021 10:01 PM PDT Wake up with determination; go to bed with satisfaction! This is our daily check-in, to help keep us accountable over the long haul. Feel free to post whatever goals will help keep you on track. Here's the regular text on behalf of this thread's originator, kingoftheeyesores, taken with his blessing
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