Weight loss: Not proud victory: Covid has given me lots more months to become skinnier than my hometown frenemy |
- Not proud victory: Covid has given me lots more months to become skinnier than my hometown frenemy
- I’m finally realising how much harder weight loss is for some people.
- My husband just told me I need to lose some weight in the most loving way possible
- Today I hit my goal weight after 4 years of trying, and I want to share the mindset that helped me achieve this
- Lost 44.7% of My Total Body Weight in 2 Years. I have to admit, Psychedelics Influenced My Journey. [380 -> 210 lbs]
- The realization that you can’t be on/off track and you are ALWAYS doing CICO, whether you’re tracking or not, has been helping my weight loss efforts tremendously.
- It has taken me 3 days to eat a pint of Ben & Jerry’s
- NSV not always reaching the magic number
- I’m back to share that I did it!!! I lost the last 5lbs
- 265-194 Progress Pics
- Portion creep is real!
- I ate 956 kcal of macadamia nuts
- Reached my goal weight in time for my birthday!!
- Opposite Goals but totally on target!
- Skinny fat, “naturally thin”, and what I’ve learned
- Fell off the Wagon
- FAT MENTALITY: The most important part of weight loss everyone forgets.
- [Challenge] European Accountability Challenge: June 23rd, 2020
- Keeping track of my meals, I realized that the dessert I had was 30% of my daily calorie intake for today. Desserts really do creep up on you. (Update on myself)
- relationship with food- improved
- Introducing myself.
- how do you stay accountable in quarantine?
- I finally broke through my plateau today!
- What are your whys that people without weight issues wouldn't necessarily understand?
| Not proud victory: Covid has given me lots more months to become skinnier than my hometown frenemy Posted: 22 Jun 2020 02:09 PM PDT Yes, I am a superficial bitch. Was scheduled to visit hometown this summer, which always involves seeing evil frenemy woman, who made my life hell as a younger person, who I despise to the depths of my being, and who always makes little cutting remarks to cut me down to size. So I put on weight about ten years back, and so did frenemey. To my eyes she looked really fat, but of course I look at myself in the mirror, not in pics, and I was likely not far off just as fat as her. But I started losing weight last year, and as of Feb was on track to pass my median lifetime weight just after we got back from the hometown trip. But of course, quarantine slowed down my loss (damn free food!), and I was all upset looking at my projection, which is to hit that weight after the summer, and likely even after Thanksgiving for my goal weight. But, ain't nobody going anywhere this summer, and nobody going anywhere for t-giving either. Next time I encounter her I am going to be positively svelte! And now I am so much more motivated not to dip into that costco pack of cashews. Revenge is a dish best served cold, with the dressing on the side and in a small bowl, to trick the eye into thinking it's larger than it is. [link] [comments] |
| I’m finally realising how much harder weight loss is for some people. Posted: 22 Jun 2020 03:56 AM PDT Stats: 5'8"F, SW:207, CW: 163, GW: 140 I started losing in mid February because I'd realised quite how overweight I had become, and I was wearing a UK size eighteen. I live alone in my own apartment and I have a kitchen to myself and full control over what I buy, what goes in the cupboards, etc. I found it surprisingly easy. I counted calories to 1500 a day, I cooked loads, and started to incorporate some exercise, finally taking up running once I hit a healthy BMI and knew I wouldn't be putting too much strain on my knees. I lost 40lbs in just over three months. And then, I moved to my parents' for a month during quarantine, to have someone to be with. I still tried to count calories. I still cooked. I took up running and began running 30mins a day. And despite all that, I plateaued. Couldn't break 170. Then I gained two pounds. Then I got sick, and lost it again. After a while, I realised: the reason weight loss had been so easy up until that point for me was because I had the ability to be self-centred, in a way. I could focus on every nutrient, every calorie that was going in my food. I could eat whatever size meal, whenever I wanted, so some days I could 'save up' calories and have a big dinner. At my parents', that all changed. Suddenly I was cooking for five people, including three big, hungry men. Suddenly, I didn't know if my mum had added a couple of tbsp of oil into my salad without me noticing. Suddenly, there was a lot more food around. And it was so much harder. Suddenly, I had to have three 'proper' meals a day, so I couldn't have a snacky lunch and a big dinner. And it turns out you can't cook an egg on toast for a big hungry Greek man for his lunch. All of this is to say that I think people like me need to understand that in a perfect world, weight loss IS easy: just count and see the scale go down. However, so many have complicated family lives: kids, overweight parents who don't eat well, university or school cafeterias to contend with, less money to buy healthier food, etc. And this DOES make it so much harder. I can't imagine how frustrating trying to lose weight must be if you're young and your parents cook unhealthy food for you. I remember from my time at boarding school (picture a hogwarts feast! Jk, but there was a LOT of stodgy British food) how hard I tried and how it didn't work. I'm sure this isn't exactly a new revelation to most people. But I need to try to be kind, and thankful for the control I have. Eventually I did manage to lose some weight at my parents', 7lbs. But it was SO MUCH HARDER. So to anyone living in situations where it's hard to lose weight, you are amazing. You can do this. Have conversations about why you're doing this, and how. Portion size is king. Above all, though, I'm so so proud of you, and it took a weird quarantine time in a home I haven't lived in for ten years for me to see that. [link] [comments] |
| My husband just told me I need to lose some weight in the most loving way possible Posted: 22 Jun 2020 06:50 PM PDT I know I'm overweight. I know I could be healthier. But for some reason, I couldn't get the courage to make a change until my husband told me, "babe you need to lose some weight and I mean that in the most loving way as possible". We always promised each other that we'd be completely honest if one person was getting out of hand health wise so I truly appreciate his honesty. It gives me courage and the butt kicking I needed to hear in order to make a change. Just wanted to share this for accountability and to let others know, it's ok to be completely honest with your spouse or partner or friend. Today is my day 1. I'm 5'6" and 162 Ibs. I can and I will do this. [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 22 Jun 2020 03:32 PM PDT Just wanted to share this experience because I've seen a lot of people here chat about restrictive eating - naturally - but I found heavily restrictive eating really damaging for my mental health and ineffective for weight loss, and so tried an alternative tactic. TW: some of this post might be triggering for people who have suffered/are suffering from eating disorders. My weight gain was the result of binge eating. I would eat normally all day and then at night I'd often devour thousands of calories in one sitting. Due to a relatively active lifestyle I've never been very overweight, but I had a good 1.5 stone that I wanted to lose which was really affecting my confidence. I've tried to lose weight in the past, and found that restrictive eating wasn't sustainable for me. My goal was always 1,200 calories per day and I would feel proud if I came in under it. So the goal slipped lower and lower. If I went out for a meal or binged, I would feel I had to punish myself for "over eating" and would eat hardly anything for a few days. At which point I would cave and over-eat... And so the cycle continues... I never gained or lost much weight during this 3.5ish year period. I would just fluctuate between the same 4 pounds. For unrelated reasons, I began to see a Cognitive Behavioural Therapist about seven months ago. In February we were speaking about my coping strategies and naturally I brought up binge eating and restrictive eating. I told her I had tried to move away from calorie counting because I became obsessive. After talking it through with her, she actually recommended that I stop trying to lose weight, but that I continue to track my food with the goal of maintaining my weight to discourage binge eating. This added a significant amount of calories back into my daily budget (about 500), which admittedly scared me at first. What amazed me is that once I started actually feeding my body properly, and eating good hearty meals three times a day, a lot of the binging tenancies went away. I didn't always hit my daily calorie budget (sometimes I went over, sometimes I stayed under), but I always made sure I left the table satisfied. Because most of my weight gain came from binging and not my meals, in May I was completely surprised to realise I had dropped 8 pounds. More than I had ever lost before since putting the weight on. I've since continued to eat a maintenance diet and increased my exercising and today I'm officially down 1.5 stone. It's not the fastest weight loss story, but it feels sustainable. My body, but more importantly my mental health, has never felt better. I applaud people who successfully can maintain and manage restrictive diets, but it's not necessarily the best route for everyone. For me, it was disordered eating that was feeding into a really bad relationship with food and with my body, and changing the goal from 1,200 is plenty to just giving my body consistent meals with minimal binging really worked. [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 22 Jun 2020 08:06 PM PDT I want to start off by saying. I am not condoning anyone to use psychedelic drugs, however I would like to share my experience. I was 380lbs at the beginning of 2018. I was always the chunky kid growing up. When I got to college, I was a party machine. I loved to drink. I was the chugger at the party. The one that would grab the fifth of Jack and go until it's gone. It was unhealthy. It was never a problem, I was always in control. However, it was a terrible habit. In the back of my mind, I knew something needed to change. This wasn't a foreign feeling to me. I've gotten this thought of living a healthier life many times growing up. Then one day there was "the switch". It was a normal night at my friends house. We got our hands on some magic mushrooms . We were ready to take on the night and see some crazy shit. I like to take my whole eighth and break it into crumbs and just take them in one go. Wash it down with some OJ. There were a few of us at my friends house that night. I was naive of the internal intervention I was about to have with myself later on in the night. I went to use the bathroom. My friend had a body mirror in the bathroom. It showed everything from your head to your toes. I remember looking at myself and not liking who I was. I felt a overwhelming feeling of the color red (that may not make sense to everyone, but those who have had enough psychedelics understand). I felt like I was looking in the mirror for hours, and in hindsight, I probably wasn't it was probably 5mins but it felt like 10hrs. Psychedelics allow you to look through the world from a third person perspective. It allows your mind to zoom out and look at the overall meaning of life. The overall meaning is health. I knew I wanted the best for my body. I realized at that very moment that... this body...this weird shell, is me. I needed to do something about it. I knew I only wanted the best for myself. I had an internal talk with myself. Something I find very important to this day. Some people may find it strange to talk with themselves. However, it's helped me tremendously. I told myself to just buckle the fuck down and get to work. No more bullshit. GET TO WORK! I started with the boxing bag. I would go 4 rounds of 3mins each and I would be fucking gassed. Boxing ain't no joke and I was hopping into this with no conditioning. Eventually, I got my cardio and endurance up. I started to last 6 rounds, then 8, then 12. Then I started to see the pounds drop on the scale. I just kept making the next workout better than the last. I just kept upping that time and intensity. I also had a stationary bike at the time and I would do circuit rounds on and off with the punching bag. I was a huge fan of UFC and MMA in general. I then gained the confidence to join a gym. This was maybe around March of 2019. It took me a while. I was getting good workouts in my basement. By this time, I had barbells, kettlebells, dumbbells. So I had the equipment. I was still losing weight by this time. However I wanted to start gaining more muscle. I learned quickly that fat loss and muscle growth are complete enemies of each other. So I stuck with high rep, lower weight at the gym. I'm currently recovering from a drunk scooter accident, I know, very manly. Not my proudest moment. I tore both meniscus and my ACL. My knee is about 80% there. I was able to focus a lot of upper body during my recovery time of my lower extremities. I have just recently upped my calories from around a 1750Cals/Day diet to a 3000Cals/Day diet. I am now on my next journey of gaining mass. Putting it back on the healthy way. The journey is far from over, but so far I stuck to my word and it feels damn amazing. I'm half the man I used to be and now I'm on my journey to gaining muscle. If you made it this far in the read, thank you. I felt like I could've said more, but I wasn't sure if people would be interested. Stay safe, and love the journey! Progress Pic: [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 22 Jun 2020 05:54 PM PDT The realization that you can't be on/off track and you are ALWAYS doing CICO, whether you're tracking or not has been helping my weight loss efforts tremendously. I figured I'd share a mindset tip that has been helping me a lot! Hopefully it will resonate with at least one person, but if not, it will probably help me just writing it out! So just a very brief background on my old mindset! I was EXTREMELY all or nothing. I would set my calories super low (underestimating my activity levels and choosing to take a 1000 cal/day deficit). I would do great for awhile, staying "on track" and losing 2-3 pounds a week. Then I would have a day of very strong cravings, hit my low calorie goal by noonish, then say "fuck it" for the rest of the day and binge on take out. The next day, I would swear to get right back on track but I would still be having strong craving from the day before. I would do the exact same thing and binge that night. Eventually, I would be completely off track until my next burst of motivation came to lose weight. I would usually be "off track" for at least a couple months at a time. Now for how I think about things now. Because of how biology/physics work, humans are ALWAYS on CICO, whether they're tracking their calories or not. Why am I constantly in a cycle of either eating at a deficit or not tracking and gaining back 20 pounds at a time?? I have literally never maintained one weight for a significant period of time in my entire life. I've decided to switch my calories to my maintenance calories on days that I'm have strong cravings and/or struggling with emotional eating. There are still days that I eat well over maintenance calories, but I've still set a minimum behavior goal of tracking my food ALWAYS, even if it's way over my goal. Because like I said above, our bodies are always tracking our calories, so it's good to be aware of the number (for me, at least. Please don't listen to this advice if you're prone to be obsessed with numbers). When I have a day that I'm not able to control binge eating, I just track my binges, and set my calories for maintenance the next day. It usually takes me a couple days to stick to my maintenance calories just because I tend to have strong cravings for a while after binging, but I DO NOT try to go straight back into a deficit. Once I'm able to hit my maintenance calories for a few days in a row, I go back to a 500-750 calorie/day deficit. It works every time I've done it! No more getting "off track" for months at a time and gaining back 20+ pounds. I may put back on 5 pounds, but they come off fairly quickly and the binging cycle is so so so much shorter. Tl;dr We only have one life and every action we take in a day is either moving us towards or away from our weight loss goals. There is no "on track" or "off track." We make several decisions every single day that affect our weight, but as long as we don't just say "fuck it" and binge eat for months, we will all eventually hit our goals :) [link] [comments] |
| It has taken me 3 days to eat a pint of Ben & Jerry’s Posted: 22 Jun 2020 10:05 PM PDT I would usually finish it in 15 minutes. 26F CW: 310ish (maybe a pound or two less) I ran to cvs the other night for hair conditioner and tried to talk myself out of buying snacks, which didn't work lmao, I bought a bag of chips, chocolate covered pretzels and a pint of Ben & Jerry's. I have barely touched the chips, had maybe one handful of the pretzels and have stretched the ice cream for 3 days now. I'm trying to overcome my desire to binge on sugar and salty sweets at night but doing it cold turkey has had the adverse affect in the past. I'm not glad I bought the snacks, but having such small bits in moderation over these 3 days has been interesting and proves to myself that my intense cravings can be curbed. Usually, I can eat the whole pint then probably half the bag of chips and then all the chocolate pretzels the next day. Today I'm just shocked so much of all of it is still there lmao Hoping this lasts more than 2 weeks before I revert back to my old habits. My half birthday is approaching on the 29th and I just want to fully commit to finally taking myself seriously. Just want to document some positivity. Much love all! [link] [comments] |
| NSV not always reaching the magic number Posted: 22 Jun 2020 04:52 PM PDT 2 years ago I was a size 14. I'm 4'11 and I was already in the obese category. I was in a horrible work environment and finished failed rounds of fertility treatment cycles that led to my weight gain. After a friend invited me to her gym, I was able to lose 30 pounds. I got down a size 8. I was very proud, however I stopped going to the gym and thought I could do it on my own. Feeling confident of my weight loss I tried to do another set of fertility treatment cycles. They failed. I gained the weight back. I couldn't fit into those size 8s anymore. Back in July I told myself I couldn't do this again. I signed up to go work with a trainer. I've been working with him until the everything shut down. By this point I was a size 8 again. The first week at home I gained 5 pounds. PCOS makes me fain it so fast plus no movement at all. I decided to get control of my body. I couldn't always depend on someone to hold my hand to lose weight. So I have been walking at the park for 2 hours 2x a week and doing Chloe Ting videos 3x a week. I also been tracking everything I eat. I've kept it up but it seems I only lost 6 pounds for the last 3 months. My pants felt loose though, so I decided to order 2 set of pants online A size 6 and a size 4 because why not? The size 6 were a bit loose and the size 4 were perfect! I can't believe it! In my head I thought to weigh a certain number, but it turns out all I had to do was shift my fat to muscle. Super proud of myself. I dont recall anytime I've been a size 4. Rant over [link] [comments] |
| I’m back to share that I did it!!! I lost the last 5lbs Posted: 22 Jun 2020 11:25 AM PDT I went to bed feeling miserable last night. I binged for the first time in over a month. I ate no vegetables yesterday. I didn't weigh/log all my food. But, today I hit my goal. I'm insanely surprised after yesterday's lack of control. I can check off my 2020 goal of hitting 130lbs. I weighed in at 130.6lbs today and still can't believe it. I'm 35lbs down from when I started this journey last MDW and there's been so many ups and downs. Weight loss is HARD. There's so many temptations, social gatherings, etc. I'm really in shock I've gotten to this point. I expected myself to have the body I did when I was last 130lbs a few years ago but I don't. I'm carrying the weight differently and it's ok. I'll get there. My body achieved something magnificent. I'm proud of myself & I'm going to keep at it. [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 22 Jun 2020 10:40 PM PDT At my biggest I was 265. I managed to go down to 194.6. It definitely wasn't what I expected. It was hard at first (super hard) but I got the hang of it pretty quickly. When I hit my goal weight, I didn't even realize just how much I had lost until I went clothes shopping. The lady asked me what size I was and when I realized I didn't know, she picked out some things for me. I was like "Me? Fit in a 1x? No way." And sure enough, I was an effing 1x! I danced and twirled; the feeling was amazing. It wasn't all good things though. My fat family wasn't supportive of me starting a diet; they'd often order fast food for dinner and say things like "are you suuuuuure?" I wasn't expecting so many people to be unsupportive; people would offer me "bad" food constantly and rationalize it with "you've been good, you can have a treat" or "it's just a (insert food here)" or "oh you can cheat every once in a while". With me every once in a while turns into repetition and people didn't realize that so many other people were doing this. If I had a treat for every time someone said I should have one, I'd be even fatter! [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 22 Jun 2020 06:30 PM PDT If you've been struggling over lockdown, try food journaling again! Lockdown has been hard. All my dieting guidelines went out the window and I comfort ate my way through heaps of pasta and baked goods and processed snacks. After just 2 months, I've managed to put on 20 lbs, a 15% increase over my pre lockdown weight, and wiping out what took me over 9 months to lose. I decided to get serious about my diet again, especially because piling on the gluten and sugars were causing health issues beyond my weight gain. Frankly, I thought just cutting gluten and processed sugars would be enough. I started with a 'healthy' lunch of 'only' grilled proteins and veggies - and when I logged it, it was 1200 calories! It was a big wake up call. Clearly my ability to estimate food portions had also gone out the window. So when in doubt or when your weight loss has plateaued or even reversed, consider reintroducing food logging and more precise measurements. Would love to hear other tips of what has helped in your weight loss journey. My go to are: - food tracking - MFP is great for me - cutting out carbs, gluten and processed sugars - these make a big difference for my gut and skin and energy levels - NOT having unhealthy snacks in the house - having healthy replacements - eg homemade protein balls for a sweet treat - having a few go to meal recipes for days when I don't want to think - making sure my meals have enough protein and fat - otherwise I get hungry really quickly :( [link] [comments] |
| I ate 956 kcal of macadamia nuts Posted: 22 Jun 2020 04:42 PM PDT I didn't count my calories since last Wednesday and wanted to start today again. It went okay. I clocked in at around 1600 but my mind kept going back to the kitchen. Back to the packet of macadamia nuts. I looked at them, looked at the calories and I knew this little bag of 125g had 956 calories. And I still took them with me and ate them. I didn't have these in years and the first nuts were absolute bliss. Crunchy, sweet, salty. Too salty. My tongue had enough but I kept eating. I drank a whole bottle of water while eating these nuts and I just didn't stop. I ate them all. So easy to ruin a day. I'm not happy about it. But I still need to be kind to myself. On Wednesday I spent over 4 hours waiting outside the hospital for my moms appointment to be over. In 4 hours I need to wake her up to go back for a biopsy. It was supposed to be next week but the chief doctor said it's urgent. My mom may have cancer and I ate 956 kcal worth of macadamia nuts. This is not an ordinary occurence and I need to be kind to myself. I need to forgive myself. I need to be positive so I can support my mom. I'm writing this post because I can't look at myself in the mirror but I still need to get this message across. [link] [comments] |
| Reached my goal weight in time for my birthday!! Posted: 22 Jun 2020 09:34 AM PDT I finally reached my goal weight of 110lbs! :) I've been on a weight loss journey to lose 20lbs for 4.5 months and I'm proud to say I've reached the end of the 50's! Just a bit of background, I'm 19F 5'3 with a SW of 134lbs. I was always the fat friend/sibling among my friends and family. Yes, I was at a healthy weight, but it didn't look like it from the way I carried my weight. My thighs and chest were unproportional to my body, I had no self-esteem throughout high school and by the time I entered college, I wanted to change that. I made a deadline for myself that I will lose weight by the time of my birthday and enter adulthood as a happy and confident young woman who's comfortable in her own skin :) I didn't think I'd make it BEFORE my birthday since Loseit said I'd make it by July, my family even laughed when I told them I'm determined to weigh 110lbs! I couldn't blame them though, I haven't weighed less than 120lbs in YEARS. And by years, I mean more than 5 years. But ya girl finally did it! Throughout this whole journey, I realized the real struggle isn't physical, it's emotional and mental. At the start of my journey, I nearly fell into an eating disorder, I was under eating and had urges to throw up after eating, but I held back. I never gave in. I tracked my calories, made sure I reach at least 1000-1200 without starving myself. As I reached halfway into my journey, I brought up the intake to 1400-1600 all while doing at least 30 minutes of HIIT workouts. Surprisingly, my weight still went down, a bit slowly, but still steadily. But the biggest thing that surprised me the most, ironically, was when I stopped being so strict with myself - when I stopped obsessing over calories and tracking it after every meal, the weight just naturally fell off. This didn't mean I let myself go, I just continued what I've been doing these past few months - avoid soda/sugary drinks, minimize snacking between meals(around once a week), drink plenty of water between and during meals (I skip dinner since I don't get hungry at night), and staying consistent with my HIIT workouts. I used to work harder to lose weight, other than the HIIT workouts, I'd spend 30 minutes doing cardio, 10 minutes on stretches, an hour on random workouts when I hit a plateau. But when I stopped all of those (except the stretching), my weight just dropped. I don't feel as tense as I used to, I stopped pressuring myself and I slowly let go of tracking calories. I just... Let loose. And I never felt happier. I'm not trying to discourage anyone from being strict on yourself, I still have to discipline myself sometimes to stop snacking and limit my portions, but right now, it feels as if it became second nature. I eat way less rice than I used to, I make sure to fill half my plate with veggies and the right amount of meat, I opt for water when my family feels like drinking soda, and eat fruit if I feel my stomach rumbling at night. When I started, 110lbs was a far away dream of mine. But here I am. An early birthday gift to myself and this is the best birthday gift anyone has ever given me. I'm hoping to maintain this until my birthday which is 3 days away :D wish me luck!! I just wanted to tell everyone to PLEASE not give up. There will really be bad days, there will be breakdowns, but that's okay. It may seem impossible now, but if you stay consistent and disciplined, you WILL reach your goal. Maybe not in a few weeks or months, but you WILL get there. Don't let one obstacle be stronger than your willpower to achieve what you want. [link] [comments] |
| Opposite Goals but totally on target! Posted: 23 Jun 2020 12:26 AM PDT Hello everyone! I wanted to share this with you all since my family doesn't seem to care lol. I work in retail and at the beginning of last year I began to realize that I couldn't walk as fast around the store. I was sweating more and bending down was a chore. I hadn't looked at my weight in a while and my work was doing this thing where you could take a class on healthy living. I signed up and (to no one's surprise) it was only me and one other person in the class. Her name can be Lisa. The two of us were polar opposites. I weighed in at 5"5 and 260 lbs (I may have cried a tiny bit.) And Lisa weighed in at 5"11 and 96lbs. The woman teaching the class looked at the both of us like she had no idea where to even begin. I was like a black lab who could have 5 pints of icecream in one day without blinking and Lisa was like a really picky cat who ate 5 Oreos and that was it for the rest of the day. The two things we did have in common were a love for junk food, and the overwhelming need to change everything about ourselves. The class was two weeks long in January and we learned a lot about weight loss and weight gain and the foods that might be the best for us. The two of us decided to become weight buddies and help each other on our individual goals. When lockdown started we would video chat and keep eachthother motivated with memes and Pinterest. We are back at work now and we are both on track! I am now at 229lbs and Lisa is at 115! We still have a long way to go but we are on the road to both be healthy. [link] [comments] |
| Skinny fat, “naturally thin”, and what I’ve learned Posted: 23 Jun 2020 12:29 AM PDT Hey guys. I read through here a lot on my main account, and I have to lead by saying that you're such a wonderful community, and fantastically supportive of one another! I thought that maybe I'd share my story as it might not be the norm. I'm now 29, and not quite at my highest weight, but nowhere near my lowest. I'll preface this by saying that even at my heaviest, I have never been called "fat" in my life. Both my parents were on the skinny side growing up, but naturally, middle age is a different matter when you aren't making the effort to maintain a level of fitness or dietary awareness. I was a bit of an ugly duckling, and didn't have many friends as a kid. My parents were separated, and I lived with my mother. She was desperately mentally ill and scarcely got out of bed in the time between me being about 7 and 10 years old. I guess I now think of those as formative food years (and formative in many other ways). Given that I was an only child, I didn't know how to cook anything, and often ate tins of beans or the like for dinner. I was really well fed on my weekends with dad, but never mentioned what things were like at home, as I was frightened I would be getting mum "in trouble". Complex custody arrangements meant that doing sport of any kind outside of school hours was more or less out of the question, and I was too skinny to be doing exercise anyway, as far as my family were concerned. I was always naturally on OMAD, without even realising. I drank Coke like it was going out of business, killed my teeth, and didn't really have a BMI of more than 17 until I hit my mid twenties. The first I remember feeling any real sense of pride in my body was when I was 16 and had my ears fixed - they were genetically deformed. The plastic surgeon told me I should become a model. Off I went, was bundled up by an agency, and then weight became a major factor for me. At 5'8" and 113ish lb, I was "fat", and frankly not pretty enough to work much anyway with that kind of body. I developed a whole host of other body issues that were previously a foreign idea. At 26, I went through a significant trauma that dragged out for about 18 months. I was off work for three months, and drank every day. Suddenly, I was 160lb and a pretty serious alcoholic. I'm doing better with alcohol now (but still drink far more than I should), but my weight has been a struggle. I got back to around 125lb very briefly, and then congratulate myself by engaging in long periods of bingeing. This now has to stop. For the first time in my life, I'm drinking a LOT of water, making the choices that aren't as delicious but are satiating in the way that matters, and listening to my body instead of torturing it. My aim is also to become active for the first time in my life. I'll never be an athlete, but I can certainly start forming healthy habits. My point, and the TLDR, is: every struggle is a bit different, and mine certainly isn't the worst, but feeling "wrong" in your body is difficult for everyone. Reading through so many stories here have filled me with your joys, your difficulties, your insights and your mindset towards getting back to somewhere healthy. I've learned (from this sub) that I was never really "naturally thin", I was just eating for function, and I'm bizarrely nearly thankful for that. Maybe one day I'll be back to the long-limbed delicate thing I used to be - but I doubt it. I'm an adult now, with an adult body. Never getting back to where I was is fine, and it took me forever to accept that. Really glad to be here with you all, whether your journey started with higher numbers or lower ones, we're all on our way to health now. For the other people out there that may be experiencing a desire to return to "rail thin" - if you don't get there, maybe it's because your body has matured to better support the person living in it. [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 22 Jun 2020 10:33 PM PDT F23 5'6" HW:185 CW: 175 GW: 140 I did so well for almost 200+ days. Then I had to move across the country. I had no food in my house for over two weeks, and had to eat fast food on the road. It didn't help I made the move with my partner, who has the opposite problem and needs to gain instead. But it made me feel gross, I lost the energy I had gained, and my skin feels so oily. I only gained back 10 of the 20 lbs I lost, which is a win and I'm trying to look at it as that. Tomorrow I am going to go to the grocery store as I finally got cookware in today. Tomorrow I am getting back on board. Hopefully I can keep at it this time and achieve my goal. Wish me luck. [link] [comments] |
| FAT MENTALITY: The most important part of weight loss everyone forgets. Posted: 22 Jun 2020 05:54 AM PDT I am writing this because it is something that I've come to realize after years of weight loss. I rarely use reddit and made this account just to post this because i feel that it is so important. Some background: I'm a guy in my early 20's, I was overweight most of my childhood. If you're reading this you probably know how shitty it can be growing up as the fat kid in school; the teasing/lack of confidence can really weigh on you. After being fed up with my life for years, in late middle/early high school I started really trying hard to lose weight. Going from someone with no exercise to exercise and dieting, I started seeing results rapid results early on. But it was never enough, the more weight that I lost, the more that I started to critique small imperfections. This cycle continued for years, my weight fluctuated up and down and I continued to be insecure about it. This brings me to senior year of high school, while up to this point I probably wouldn't have been considered "obese" by any doctor, I still hated how I looked and I decided to really go hard in the gym during my wrestling season. I worked out for 2 hours a day, 6 days a week. My life during this time completely revolved around training. I started my senior year of high school at 5'11" 215-220 lbs, by the middle of the school year, I weighed around 180-185 a weight I hadn't been at since 7th grade. I was in the best shape I had ever been in and for some reason I just felt empty. I looked in the mirror and didn't know what I was staring at. I began to realize that losing weight was not an end-all-be-all to happiness in life and being fat is only a symptom of your life situation and not a cause. YOU CAN LOSE ALL THE WEIGHT IN THE WORLD AND STILL BE FAT IN YOUR HEAD. In school I might have seen a girl I wanted to talk to or ask out and the first thing that came to my mind was that I'm fat and have no chance, so I wouldn't even pursue. I thought if I lost weight it would fix several problems in all areas of my life and that is simply not the case. I had to fix the root of what made me overweight in the first place, food is an escape, its like a drug. When you're eating, it takes you away from the rest of the world for those few moments. Obviously, this makes you gain weight over time and does nothing to solve the problem. On the flip side, exercising can do the same thing, while this is a much healthier way of relieving stress, don't use it to shield away from confronting what you need to in life. You don't need to wait to lose weight to start loving yourself, you don't need to wait to lose weight to be happy. And actually if you drop the fat mindset it will make your journey of losing weight much easier. Why do you eat? What are you trying to escape from? Look your demons straight in the face, don't trade an addiction to food with an addiction to losing weight. Don't put off important things you need to face until after you lose the weight. Sorry this is so long, just hoping even one person can read this and benefit from it. [link] [comments] |
| [Challenge] European Accountability Challenge: June 23rd, 2020 Posted: 22 Jun 2020 10:29 PM PDT Hi team Euro accountability, I hope you're all well! For anyone new who wants to join today, this is a daily post where you can track your goals, keep yourself accountable, get support and have a chat with friendly people at times that are convenient for European time zones. Check-in daily, weekly, or whatever works best for you. It's never the wrong time to join! Anyone and everyone are welcome! Tell us about yourself and let's continue supporting each other. Let us know how your day is going, or, if you're checking in early, how your yesterday went! Share your victories, rants, problems, NSVs, SVs, we are here! [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 22 Jun 2020 10:21 PM PDT I realize now honeslty why I had childhood obesity, you think that "Oh once slice wouldn't kill". No turns out it's 570 calories, and you still haven't eaten lunch, or dinner. The issue was it wasn't even filling or large. And I just ate it no problem. Dessert really should be something you eat once in a while. I used to eat something sugary or such right after dinner, every night. It always candy, or cookies, or ice cream. It adds up fast. But, I am happy with myself so far, past 4 days I kept under 1800 calories from reading and seeing stuff on here, it's not alot but for once I am actually tracking every, little, thing I've had. I never knew why I felt scared to not put in my meals and such Originally, but I realize now why. I was afraid to realize that I ate too much. I still have a minor issue with sodium, I'm not 100% sure what I can do on there for meals and such, I really would love some advice! However, The only "sweet" thing I wanted to keep was the creamer for coffee, I can get into going with other stuff, but the French roast I have it's best to have with the creamer. Idk if that counts as cheating. But I'mma try [link] [comments] |
| relationship with food- improved Posted: 22 Jun 2020 11:30 PM PDT Struggling my entire life with EDs, my relationship with food oscillates between "I will eat until I fall into a coma" and "I will starve until there's holes in my stomach". I got this from my dear mother. F her But I have been working on it. Corona helped. My partner, who has been incredible and helped me deal with my anxiety helped as well, despite being away for 3 months and 12 days. THis place helped a lot. Well, yesterday i was feeling down. I did go shopping. I did buy a LOT of food. I was gonna binge then purge. And this is my victory. [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 23 Jun 2020 12:08 AM PDT I am so glad that someone recommended this community to me. I am 33 years old woman I am 166cm tall and my ideal weight is 60-62kg. During the quarantine I gained 7kg. I already started losing them and I'm at 66kg. I have always been very aware of my weight. At 19 years old, I reached 55kg in 3-4 months, eating one day yes and one day no. Obviously I got sick, I lost weight but all my muscle mass. My heart was not healthy and my kidneys ached all day. Fortunately, I put that behind with the help of my boyfriend who is my husband today. And we are trying to have a baby. But I am still very aware of my weight. I downloaded several apps of diets and weight loss programs that have helped me a little, the problem is that I lack discipline and focus in the goal. I know what to do but I constantly find myself looking in the fridge or the cabinet of knickknacks. I always get something to eat. I also became super sedentary. Before we used to hike, sleep in tents in the mountains, etc. As a commitment to my introduction to this community, I pledge to walk to work daily. I'm 30 minutes away. So it's 30 minutes of walking daily. And also walk back. I always start but I don't stick. Please, any encouragement would come in handy! Thanks for having me! 💪🏼🥰💪🏼 [link] [comments] |
| how do you stay accountable in quarantine? Posted: 22 Jun 2020 10:51 PM PDT So I (18F, 5'4" CW: 142, GW: 120) am super irritated with myself. I was a varsity swimmer in high school, so I could eat whatever I wanted and maintain around 125. After freshman year of college, I was still eating like a swimmer, and I put on 10-15 pounds. Ever since quarantine started I've been desperately trying to get it off, running 3-5 miles, biking, or swimming almost daily, and doing IF & OMAD. Problem is, I keep falling off the wagon. It'll be someone's birthday, I'll get shin splints, or (since I'm home bc of COVID) my mom will buy a ton of unhealthy food from Costco. I am a huge stress eater and bored eater, so the combination of frustration over lack of results, being stuck at home, and fasting & hunger make the days I fall off brutal. I knew my clothes were getting tight, but I didn't realize the extent to which my body has changed (huge baggy t-shirts hide a lot). Today I tried on some dresses in a boutique, because rush week is in August and I needed a new dress, and I was appalled by what I saw in the fitting room mirror. I'm a large for the first time in my life. And, for a short girl, I definitely look it. I'm so frustrated with myself that I can't stay consistent long enough to see results, and a previous 4 months of time to lose weight has dwindled down into 6 weeks before I move back to school. I'm determined to lose at least a LITTLE weight by the time I get back to school, however, and I wanted to ask if anyone is/has been in a similar situation? I would greatly appreciate any advice on staying motivated and being accountable. [link] [comments] |
| I finally broke through my plateau today! Posted: 22 Jun 2020 03:32 PM PDT This is just a little post that I wanted to make because I can't believe this finally happened. I've been fluctuating between 70-72kg the last TWO MONTHS , even while doing intense workout programs and eating the proper calories I need. Two weeks ago I hurt my knee and had to take a week off, then another week off for a separate health issue. In those two weeks I was still fluctuating between 70-71kg, and couldn't break past that for the life of me. So I started IF 16:8 again (not perfectly, but close enough) and this morning I woke up weighing 69.95kg !!!! It's the tiniest drop, but just seeing myself break through my plateau when I haven't been exercising at all made my day. Today is the day I start back on P90X, I had stopped right before the recovery week in Phase 2. So I'll be continuing the program and hopefully finishing it in 5-6 weeks! I feel like this was my motivation to get back stronger and better than before. So please guys , DO NOT LOSE HOPE! Yeah, it took me a little over two months to break through my plateau. But you know what, I stuck with it and didn't give up. I even learned to love myself in my body even more now and would always remind myself, THIS is why i'm doing this. To feel great in my body and mind. Small changes do make a big difference!!! Even when motivation fails you, don't give up. You've got this!!!!! [link] [comments] |
| What are your whys that people without weight issues wouldn't necessarily understand? Posted: 22 Jun 2020 11:49 AM PDT So, I think pretty much anyone can understand wanting to lose weight for health/appearance reasons. But what are the other reasons that people who are thin wouldn't ever understand? Here are mine: 1) Sitting in a seat without pain (e.g. hard plastic seats at sporting events, movie theatres) - I've gotten massive bruises from not fitting 2) Being able to sit down in a folding chair and not fear it breaking 3) Being able to walk into an airplane and to not have to worry about the seatbelts 4) Being able to walk through small spaces without turning sideways (aisles of planes, in particular) 5) Being able to sit in a booth at a restaurant without being uncomfortable 6) Being able to mount and ride a horse again 7) Turning over on a massage table without difficulty 8) Being able to do activities that involve jumping 9) Being able to walk into vintage stores and buy clothing (lack of plus sized options, seems to me) 10) Being able to be more active when having sex [link] [comments] |
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